Showing posts with label mothers against terrorism. Show all posts
Showing posts with label mothers against terrorism. Show all posts

Thursday, June 6, 2013

Terrorism... Again: Old threats, alternative solutions

By Edit Schlaffer

Terrorism just got a new haunting image, a Muslim man with bloody hands stands in the streets of London holding a meat cleaver that he used to butcher a Royal infantry soldier only moments earlier. This fateful incident connects two young men from very different walks of life. The attacker Michael Adebolajo, apologized to the women nearby for the gruesome sight, declaring that women in their lands "have to see the same" and explaining that "The only reason we have done this is because Muslims are dying by British soldiers every day."

At this point we should take a step back to reflect on whether we are in danger of stumbling into the stereotyping trap. Some will be quick to judge, that the two perpetrators actually represent the people in the far lands that one of them was referring to.
In the course of my recent work in the most volatile regions affected by terrorism, I had the enlightening experience of listening to the voices of fathers and mothers of suicide bombers who had lost everything that was dear to them; their children and their dignity. Yet instead of calling for revenge, they express an entirely different sentiment: "You may not use our country as an excuse to spread terror, death, fear, and bloodshed." This message undermines and discredits the typical narratives spread by recruiters, who refer particularly to Palestine as a source of grievance and justification for engaging in violent extremism.

The Palestinian mothers whom I met want to get this message out to the Western youth: "This is our fight, not yours." We have to respect this idea, for they are front-runners and are taking high risks within their society. Indeed, Nabila, a mother from Ramallah, told me that when she heard the news of her son's martyrdom, she fell to her knees and praised God. Soon after she reassessed he initial reaction: "What am I doing? I am thanking God, but instead I should be asking for his forgiveness." So she stood up and demanded for the women around her to stop their celebratory cheering. Even while this shocked her husband, she bravely faced the assembled group and challenged the local male culture of bravery. Reflecting on the aftermath she says, "We are still where we are, but just without him. He was my eldest, my strength and my protection." Now she wakes up every night, begging him in her thoughts: "Please come home, just one more time, my darling."

When I learned about the drama that unfolded on that London street, another mother came to mind: Ingrid Loyau-Kennett, a scout leader and former teacher. She engaged one perpetrator in a very personal way, asking him what he wants, managing to calm him down. Maybe this was a rare moment, when someone asked him to spell out his fragmented thoughts. This is a remarkable approach that starkly contrasts the "hard power" methods that are more commonly used. Such new "soft power" applications could act as the basis of an effective alternative in counter terrorism strategy.

The consequences of this assault immediately affected the delicate community cohesion, so that Muslim citizens again feel under attack and threatened. Shelina Zahra Janmohamed, a London-based blogger, voiced her sense of personal unease when leaving her home after the Woolwich attacks: "I felt scared, fearful of how I was perceived and what people would be thinking. I'm worried for my safety, for the security of my family."
Western anti-Muslim sentiment needs to be balanced by Muslims voicing their determination to confront the Islamist threat and expose the abuses of Islam by a small minority of extremists.

These voices are indeed widespread, even within Pakistan, a country closely associated with terrorism. I was very impressed by a group of women from the SWAT Valley -- a hotbed of extremism -- all of whom have a son or husband who was forcibly recruited by the Taliban or arrested by the army for Taliban involvement. Yet what do we actually know about these people and their stories? In some cases the villagers had witnessed symbolic public executions in front of their houses to scare those who wanted to resist joining the militant forces. The village women, recognizing how "Jihad" brought violence and misery to their families, are keen to voice their opposition, even in light of the well-known potential, brutal consequences. Madeeha, one of my interview partners, insists: 'If the recruiters come back and the men in our village cannot stop hem, then we women will join forces against them.'

Aisha Al-Wafi is the mother of Zacarius Moussaoui, who was the only person ever to be tried in a US court for being involved in the 9/11 attacks. In a conversation with me, Al-Wafi passionately exclaimed, "Strangers come and give orders to my son not to respect me? What's that about?... The extremists -- I hate them, because they don't love Islam, because The Prophet says, 'your mother, your mother, your mother'... And the extremists say, 'don't listen to your mother?' That's Islam? No, that's not Islam." She is calling out for tolerance and respect for others: "We (Muslims) need to respect, so that we'll be respected."

Talking about community cohesion makes me contemplate the countless missed bridge-building opportunities that could have materialized on a global level. A workshop with a group of women, family members of victims of the 9/11 attacks, showed me that more than ten years following the attacks there was still a need to come to terms with the aftermath of the attacks. The most remarkable feature of this meeting was the complete absence of hatred or desire for revenge towards Muslims at home or abroad. These women do not fuel any toxic anti-Islam rhetoric. Rather they highlight the commonalities between themselves and families living in regions of the world within which terrorism constitutes a daily and very real threat. These women of the Tuesday's Children group set an admirable example, and sent out a joint declaration that they refuse to hate.

What we see here is fascinating: new female approaches that challenge the mainstream scenario, namely Jihadists' claim that they are acting with the support of Muslim communities. Ultimately, we all have to find a way to live together, and we need therefore to be actively engaged in making the ambitious project of peaceful co-existence work. We have to realize that there are alternatives and powerful new players: women, co-shaping the security arena.

Monday, September 3, 2012

Your Mother, A New Film by SAVE

We have seen over and over again that in cases of war, insecurity, terrorism, and violence, women are often the first victims, and they tend to pay the highest price. But women are driven to protect their families and to safeguard their daily lives, so they are best-placed to be a new, committed, creative force for stability in our communities. At the same time, they hold key strategic positions in their communities, as mothers, educators, and community activists and leaders.

Mothers are usually those who feel the need to protect their families and communities most urgently. Mothers are a constant in the lives of their children, dedicated to ensuring their physical and emotional wellbeing. Around the world, the role of the mother is acknowledged and respected, and we must now recognize and apply this incredible resource to the stability and security space.



“Your Mother” captures the stories of mothers in Palestine, France and the UK whose children have committed acts of violent extremism, or who intended to do so. These brave women discuss how their children’s choices have destroyed their and their families’ lives. Looking into their mothers’ faces, sons and daughters will realize that acts of terrorism will not lead to glory, but rather the devastation of those they love most.

Watching this film, we hope that other mothers will feel empowered to take action to protect their own families. “Your Mother” is intended as a tool for those in communities who are able to drive change in a tangible and effective way. We hope that it will prompt meaningful conversations at a grass roots level around terrorism, radicalization, and the importance of women in preventing it.


‘Your Mother’ will be presented on September 6th , 2012 in London. 
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The Mothers: 





Aicha el-Wafi, Mother of Zacarias Moussaoui


Aicha el-Wafi is the mother of Zacarias Moussaoui, the only person ever to be tried in a US court on charges of having been involved in the September 11 attacks. Zacarias is currently serving a life sentence at the Federal ADX Supermax prison in Florence, Colorado.
  

“I don’t know if he’s alive, if he suffers or if he’s dead… I just don’t know.”

“Strangers come and give orders to my son not to respect me? What is that about? The Prophet said -‘Your mother, your mother, your mother’ and the other asked -‘What about my father?’ and he replied -‘Yes, your father…’ But he insisted on respect for the mother three times! And the extremists say ‘don’t listen to your mother’? That’s Islam? No, that’s not Islam.”









Bothaina, Mother of Ahmed

Bothaina, also known as Um Ahmed, is a Palestinian mother from the West Bank. Her eldest son Ahmed killed himself in a suicide attack at the age of 17.

“I was planning for him to go to university, every time I walk passed the university I start crying. Every time I see one of his friends I start crying.”

“When Ahmed passed and I went to his funeral, I wish I had died with him and not felt this enormous pain.”

“I wish all young people could feel with their mothers, fathers, relatives and realise how much they will suffer and struggle their whole lives. It’s true they will be gone forever but their families will still be there…” 




Vicky Ibrahim, Mother of Andrew (Isa)  

Vicky’s son Andrew was arrested in April 2008 and convicted of plotting to blow up a shopping centre in Bristol. He is currently serving a minimum of 10 years in prison.

“It was midnight and the police came to visit us, and told us Andy had been arrested on terrorism charges. We were shocked. How could OUR son be involved in something like this?”

“It’s an impossible situation, every day is a struggle.”

“You try to give a sense of normality, but inside you’re crying.” 




Siham Abu Awwad, Palestinian Mother

Siham Abu Awwad is an activist and mother from the Beit Umar village of Palestine. Siham lost her younger brother, whom she had raised like a son, during the second Palestinian Intifada.

“I think bombing himself will not serve anyone, it will not help anyone, and it will not bring anyone back either. The only fact that I will face at the end of the day after he kills himself is that I will be a bereaved mother, and I’m not sure I can deal with that.”

“It’s the same message for my son and for all kids, all young people everywhere: violence will never bring anything. Violence will only bring more violence.” 




Bouchra, Mother of Mahmoud

Bouchra is a Palestinian mother from Beit Ummar who lost her son Mahmoud in the conflict. She believes education is key for the prevention of violent extremism in Palestine.

“The most important message to mothers is to encourage their sons to get a good education. Education is the most important weapon we have in this world.”

Flash Points: Edit Schlaffer presents SAVE on CBS